No Longer Anonymous: Alexis Kanda-Olmstead Overcomes the Terror of the Publish Button


30 January 2017 by Miss Andi

One of the courageous things to do is to own up to what you create. After reading this interview I wondered if I should put my name on this blog… But name for me is a funny thing.

I have a very Hungarian name which I anglicised in order to blend in better when I lived in Ireland. Of course as soon as I open my mouth my accent gives me away so changing my name is not a very effective approach.

Still, I feel better not being stuck in eveything my Hungarian name represents: my old life, my insecurities, my unresolved issues with my father or with myself. But my new name had issues as well.

Should I throw it away as well? Or should I accept that I am who I am, failures and successes notwithstanding? Am I ready to announce that I am not a native speaker no matter how much I desire it?

I don’t want it to define me. I don’t want a name or my past to define me but I have to accept that they are part of me. I can’t shed them – they aren’t skin and I’m not a snake.

So yes, I am ready:

Hi, my name is Andrea Miklos aka Andrea Michaels and I’m ready for you to see my soul.

(But also read this lovely interview with a totally genuine wordsmith ☺)


Alexis Kanda-Olmstead’s moving essay on body image, “Making Friends With This Body,” was the fifth post on AKO Collective — a blog she started in August to showcase her writing. We spoke with Alexis about her blog’s origin story, her inspirations, and Blogging University.

Costume? What costume? (Alexis Kanda-Olmstead) Costume? What costume? (Alexis Kanda-Olmstead)

What sparked you to start blogging?

I’m a book lover, so my first experience with blogging was actually in the form of a book, Let’s Pretend This Never Happened by Jenny Lawson, aka The Bloggess. Her compilation is interspersed with traumatic and hilarious childhood stories, and I highly recommend it to anyone who has been messed up by their parents, which is pretty much everyone.

While I was laughing my way through her book, I had an unfortunate “bad mommy” moment with my kids that made all of us cry. It occurred to me that my kids might…

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3 thoughts on “No Longer Anonymous: Alexis Kanda-Olmstead Overcomes the Terror of the Publish Button

  1. andreacfrt says:

    I feel like I have so much in common with you, not only because of the name but the whole experience behind it. I am also not a native speaker of English, I’ve lived in many countries and I often had to think about my identity. It’s very complex identity but that’s who I am!

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    • Miss Andi says:

      How weird is that, sharing so many things besides a name! I think it’s complex and simple at the same time – once I can make that decision that I am me with everything I’d want to forget and would always want to remember, it becomes simple. It was more difficult when I tried to cherrypick! Or maybe it’s always complex and I’m looking at it through a temporary tunnel vision… We’ll see!
      Thank you for visiting!


  2. Ginger says:

    Our past never defines us but it certainly shapes us … if we learn then we grow!
    Nice to meet you Andrea M.

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