No Longer Anonymous: Alexis Kanda-Olmstead Overcomes the Terror of the Publish Button

One of the courageous things to do is to own up to what you create. After reading this interview I wondered if I should put my name on this blog… But name for me is a funny thing.

I have a very Hungarian name which I anglicised in order to blend in better when I lived in Ireland. Of course as soon as I open my mouth my accent gives me away so changing my name is not a very effective approach.

Still, I feel better not being stuck in eveything my Hungarian name represents: my old life, my insecurities, my unresolved issues with my father or with myself. But my new name had issues as well.

Should I throw it away as well? Or should I accept that I am who I am, failures and successes notwithstanding? Am I ready to announce that I am not a native speaker no matter how much I desire it?

I don’t want it to define me. I don’t want a name or my past to define me but I have to accept that they are part of me. I can’t shed them – they aren’t skin and I’m not a snake.

So yes, I am ready:

Hi, my name is Andrea Miklos aka Andrea Michaels and I’m ready for you to see my soul.

(But also read this lovely interview with a totally genuine wordsmith ☺)


Alexis Kanda-Olmstead’s moving essay on body image, “Making Friends With This Body,” was the fifth post on AKO Collective — a blog she started in August to showcase her writing. We spoke with Alexis about her blog’s origin story, her inspirations, and Blogging University.

Costume? What costume? (Alexis Kanda-Olmstead) Costume? What costume? (Alexis Kanda-Olmstead)

What sparked you to start blogging?

I’m a book lover, so my first experience with blogging was actually in the form of a book, Let’s Pretend This Never Happened by Jenny Lawson, aka The Bloggess. Her compilation is interspersed with traumatic and hilarious childhood stories, and I highly recommend it to anyone who has been messed up by their parents, which is pretty much everyone.

While I was laughing my way through her book, I had an unfortunate “bad mommy” moment with my kids that made all of us cry. It occurred to me that my kids might…

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3 Comments Add yours

  1. andreacfrt says:

    I feel like I have so much in common with you, not only because of the name but the whole experience behind it. I am also not a native speaker of English, I’ve lived in many countries and I often had to think about my identity. It’s very complex identity but that’s who I am!

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    1. Miss Andi says:

      How weird is that, sharing so many things besides a name! I think it’s complex and simple at the same time – once I can make that decision that I am me with everything I’d want to forget and would always want to remember, it becomes simple. It was more difficult when I tried to cherrypick! Or maybe it’s always complex and I’m looking at it through a temporary tunnel vision… We’ll see!
      Thank you for visiting!


  2. Ginger says:

    Our past never defines us but it certainly shapes us … if we learn then we grow!
    Nice to meet you Andrea M.

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